Maid of Honor Duties

So you’ve been tried, and weighed and you fit the bill. You’re the maid of honor. Be happy. You are now your friends sounding board and confident.  There are tons of highs and lows when it comes to being a maid of honor. The important thing is to understand what it really means. She loves you.  Remember that.  She may decide you are the perfect person to take out a little wedding stress on. Or she may be perfect angelic and never say or do anything hurtful. Either way, hold on tight.


In today’s pinterest world, Maid of honor can take on different meanings. For some people, it’s interpreted as wedding planner/organizer.  For others, it simply means standing a little closer, holding her flowers and fixing her train. I personally believe the duties fall a little in between and depend on how many maids/matrons there are as well as proximity to bride. You simply can not expect an out of town maid of honor to do everything the girl living 5 minutes away can do. That doesn’t mean the out of town moh is any less emotionally invested.


One of your main duties no matter what is throwing the couples shower. Put a little love in it. Be as creative or as classic as she desires. Some brides have a vision and some brides can’t care less. Ask her what she wants. Determine if she wants a couple or ladies shower, where she wants it located, and when does she want it. After this, you will need to make invitations, work on decorations, choose a few fun games to play, make the menu, order cupcakes or cake, and encourage bride to register for gifts if she hasn’t already.  You can hint or ask other bridesmaids if they can contribute.  Most wont mind bringing a dish or picking up cupcakes etc.   Make sure the shower is at least 2 months prior to wedding. J


For the Maid of Honor that truly wants to be supportive here’s a few things you can do to help your friend prepare for their wedding and enjoy their wedding:


Prepare for wedding:

-Assist in addressing invitations (or stamping if you’re handwriting isn’t awesome or she has a calligrapher)

-Plan the shower

-Make an emergency kit (ill put a list of suggested items at bottom of article)

-Help the bride gather everything she will need for wedding (clothing makeup etc) and stay organized

-Help the bride get dressed. You will need to know how to corset/tie her dress as well as bustle. Go to her appointment with her and learn how to do this. (PS before wedding make sure your hands are clean!!! White dress—dirty makeup hands—aaaaah)

-Bring the brides going away outfit with you to reception

-Help the Bride pack for honeymoon and double check that she hasn’t left anything out.




-Keep the itinerary/schedule intact by making sure everyone (bridesmaids especially) are in the know of what they are suppose to be doing… and doing it

(reception too)

-Help the bride with gown, veil and train

-Hold her flowers

-Hold her ring

-Sign the marriage license



-Get her and the groom a plate to eat upon entering reception hall. They won’t have time to get it themselves!

-Point out important people to the bride to photographer/videographer. Help make sure that people are blocking key views of these professionals.

-Actually watch their first dance

-Have bridal party ready and waiting to do the wedding party dance

-Make sure best man is ready to do garter toss

-Help the bride change into her going away outfit

-Bring the wedding gown home after reception and bring it












 be preserved. (this would be arranged by bride. This is mainly if she is going on a honeymoon)

-Mail the wedding announcements the following day of wedding.

-If the bride request, bring guest book, gifts etc to a safe location *their house or parents* for when they return.



Last but not least, ENJOY IT! This is fun! You are celebrating one of the most important day of a very important persons life. Show your love and be accountable. They are counting on you and that’s what really matters.




Wedding Day Emergency Kit

A checklist of things every bride should have on hand on her wedding day.

Be prepared! Print this list and check off items as you assemble your kit.


¨ hand lotion, wet wipes

¨ curling iron, hot rollers

¨ tissues

¨ hairdryer

¨ cotton balls, cotton swabs

¨ brush, comb

¨ makeup

¨ hairspray, hair gel

¨ makeup remover

¨ bobby pins, hair elastics, barrettes

¨ nail polish in shade worn

¨ headband or clips for pulling hair back while applying makeup

¨ nail polish remover

¨ toothbrush, toothpaste, floss

¨ nail file

¨ mouthwash

¨ tweezers

¨ baby powder

¨ small grooming scissors

¨ deodorant

¨ small hand towel

¨ perfume

¨ lint brush



¨ “throwaway” garter

¨ safety pins and a sewing kit with thread the color of bride’s and attendants’ dresses

¨ clear nail polish for runs in pantyhose

¨ masking tape or sewing tape (for last-minute ripped hems)

¨ extra earring backs

¨ small scissors (for thread)

¨ extra buttons

¨ club soda or other stain removal solutions

¨ flat shoes for the reception

¨ iron

¨ extra pantyhose

¨ White chalk for dress


¨ antacid

¨ bandages

¨ antihistamine, cold remedy, any prescription meds

¨ upset stomach remedy

¨ aspirin, pain relievers

¨ feminine hygiene products (tampons, panty liners, etc.)


¨ extra copies of directions to reception

¨ _________________________________________

¨ breath mints

¨ _________________________________________

¨ cell phone and home phone numbers of all wedding participants

¨ _________________________________________

¨ contact information for all vendors

¨ _________________________________________

¨ snacks

¨ _________________________________________

¨ bottled water

¨ _________________________________________

¨ champagne, glasses

¨ _________________________________________










  1. Bring your dress within six weeks to get dry cleaned (or make arrangements).
  2. Professional gown preservation cost between 150$ and 500$.  Research and find a reputable dry cleaner with vast experience in the area.



If doing yourself. Get plenty of acid-free tissue paper and decide hanger or box storage. I vote hanger.


  1. If going with box, line the box with the paper and fold the dress accordion style hem first into box. Stuff the bodice with crumpled tissue paper. Put layers of tissue on top and put on lid.  Make sure lid is solid and does not have a plastic window. 
  2. For hanger storage, wrap a wide hanger with cotton batting and cover it with muslin. Buy an acid free cardboard “dress shaper” and place it over the hanger. Wrap it in tissue and place dress over the hanger.  Stuff the bodice of the dress and any deep folds with the tissue paper.  Cover the dress with a muslin bag and hang it in a coold dry closet. Don’t crush with any other clothing


You will need to inspect your dress annually. For box storage, you will need to repackage dress annually and fold in new areas to prevent creasing. 


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